“Why will we take issues personally? Somebody says or does one thing and we really feel damage, uncared for, offended and betrayed by the opposite one. We consider it’s the opposite individual’s fault. He is accountable for how we really feel. This is our ego talking. Our ego thinks others ought to take us into consideration. Our ego doesn’t wish to be criticised. It needs to be acknowledged: ‘I’m proper!’
“When my ego takes over, I’m preventing all day. I’m in a relentless wrestle with the remainder of the world, and it drains my power. When you don’t issues personally, nobody has energy over you. You’re free. You expertise way more concord and connection between you and different folks. Your power can go in direction of good issues as an alternative of endlessly battling in opposition to the issues that drive you loopy.
“Do you wish to be proper or do you wish to be joyful? How to not take issues personally to be joyful?
“It’s by shifting our focus from ‘me’ to ‘we’. Try to see the intention of the opposite one and make area for understanding, as an alternative of irritation. Our mind produces 50,000 ideas a time out of which solely 10,000 are optimistic. You must query your insecurity for taking it personally, as a result of when you take it personally then there should be some fact in it… So that’s the second to provide your self some empathy.
“By opening up, by being vulnerable, by telling what you feel without blaming the other one, you increase the chance that the other one will understand you.”