Since childhood, we’ve got learnt ‘love’ to be summary. It can solely be felt and skilled. But, Becky Xu explains love is extra than simply an emotion. We suppose like to be a deep affection for one more particular person, however she says: “Love is also an action that comes as a result of the emotion”.
She provides, “Seeing love only as an emotion makes it very difficult to recognise from people that say they love us or people that don’t say it but show it in different ways. One will appreciate that love comes in the form of action motivated by deep affection. We can begin to appreciate the different ways that people love us.”
Xu shares in her TED Talk that other than celebrating Chinese New Year and their birthdays, her household by no means loved different events. She says: “My parents never saw love as a celebration instead they saw love as a responsibility.”
She shares a childhood story explaining how love doesn’t should be spoken, it may be sensed. Highlighting a current expertise of a candlelight dinner along with her husband organised by her son, Becky says: “This is his generation’s way of showing love to parents and themselves. Although it is different from how either I or my husband express love, we recognised his gesture for what it was and that is an action motivated by his deep affection for us, and that is love.”